Letting Go

Updated: Oct 2, 2020


In Matt Kahn’s new book entitled, The Universe Always Has a Plan talks about the 10 Golden Rules of the Universe, he says:

“No matter the circumstances you currently face, the solution to each question, concern, or existential crisis is letting go.” …. “Even though it is common for the mind to want to jump in with the most despicable life examples to contradict its wisdom, just feel into it for a moment. What is it like to sit with the knowledge that you’ve done nothing wrong, no matter what others may insist to be true? On an emotional level, even if only a small percentage of you can consider its validity, how does it feel to contemplate you’ve done nothing wrong?”

Considering this seems ludicrous. Especially if your life has been filled with strife, struggle and lack of love. Consider the possibility that your inner wisdom brought you to these experiences to learn about pain and loss, strife, struggle and feelings of neglect.

“If you’re in a physical body, you’re on a spiritual journey.” - Matt Kahn

When you look at life from a bird’s eye view, it has indeed been a journey. You start out learning about life one way and slowly with time and experience, look at it another way.

“You are always going to see each moment from the highest level of consciousness available to you.” - Matt Kahn

As you grow, your level of consciousness changes, new perspectives open, new ideas emerge and you grow. We grow in mind. We grow in body and we grow in heart. We look for good. We strive for love.

It’s important not to have regrets though because regrets keep us stuck in ego’s perception of lack. You did the best you could do with the consciousness you had at the moment. We learn and grow. Anyone who is in a physical body experiences this growth of consciousness. Regrets are a trap to keep you from moving forward. A stall tactic in a way.

This concept is overwhelming for me to grasp and I feel confused. I recognize when I feel overwhelmed and confused, it’s good. My brain is struggling with this new concept and it doesn’t know what to do with it. I don’t insist it accept this concept right now! I pull back and give myself time to assimilate. I relax and get back to what I know. I let the flooding of information reabsorb. Gently with trust I learn. Kindly with patience I deserve. I’ve heard it said many times in this meditation community, I learn better with kindness.

When you find yourself struggling with acceptance and start hammering yourself with your expectations, recognize this and imagine if there was a little child in front of you struggling with acceptance. Would you take them by the shoulders and shake them? Would you scream accusations in their face demanding they comply? This may have been done to you by a wounded adult, but you’re in charge now. Embrace the child and be gentle.

The Journey (Mary Oliver)


One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began, though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice- though the whole house began to tremble and you felt the old tug at your ankles. "Mend my life!" each voice cried. But you didn't stop. You knew what you had to do, though the wind pried with its stiff fingers at the very foundations, though their melancholy was terrible. It was already late enough, and a wild night, and the road full of fallen branches and stones. But little by little, as you left their voices behind, the stars began to burn through the sheets of clouds, and there was a new voice which you slowly recognized as your own, that kept you company as you strode deeper and deeper into the world, determined to do the only thing you could do- determined to save


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