I’m learning to let go of my need to control my morning meditation. Almost two months ago I would start preparation the night before. As I live each day, my grip lessens and my practice relaxes. The less I prepare the more I receive. This has been a journey for me. I am trusting my process. I know by 7am I will be in silence. My intentions define my actions.

We are all pilgrims on this journey learning to find comfort and ease in our routines so we can relax. Sometimes that means a new schedule, a new home, a new aloneness, a change in health, a transition. Change is inevitable. Our worlds are built on cycles of beginning and ending. It’s impossible to solve problems before they happen. Sure, we can prepare, but to imagine every possible scenario takes us out of the present moment. A friend of mine calls this “pre-suffering”. We are great problem solvers and we find a way to deal with a problem once it emerges.

Truths to live by:

  • As I love and respect my worth, I feel safe in the world.

  • As I honor my needs, I feel safe in the world.

  • As I clearly define my boundaries, I feel safe in the world.

  • As I treat myself with kindness and gentleness, others will do the same

  • As I provide my emotional support, I fulfill my needs

“Your good behavior won’t bring you what you want. Your self-worth will.” Matt Kahn

Rules for creating an Intention:

  • Imagine what you desire in full detail

  • Create affirmations to support your desire and state it as if it already exists. (I am happy in my new home)

  • Share out loud your intention with someone you trust

  • Feel the result of your desire. Imagine it’s in your hand and really feel it

  • Use gratitude as the glue that holds your intention

  • Envision your intention with expectancy, not bind it with your expectations

  • Release it like a bird taking flight knowing as you let it go allows your intention to result in your highest and best good

Dr. Susan Jeffers offers a free ebook about writing affirmations.

Defining what we want is often harder than defining what we don’t want. Allow yourself what you want. This discovery is often found in silence.


  • Often times in these meditations, I am quiet. Today, there was so much in my head because of the many ideas you mentioned. It created visuals, like a slide show. It was exciting. I related to people in my life.

  • The meditation had lots of inspiration.

  • The phrase “what is it you want?” stuck with me. I kept thinking about things I want, more in terms of praying for people I want healthy and happy. I experienced more of a generic want for what I want for the world.

  • My mind was very active today. I love serendipity. I’m reading “